7 Steps To Successful Mindset
It’s no secret that your state of mind will make the difference between you achieving the results you want and getting more of the same.
How do you develop a more successful mindset?
I recommend you get some paper and a pen, open a word, google doc, the notes app is also useful.
Ask yourself the questions dotted through this post and write down your answers, thoughts and insights to get truly make the most out of this article.
Here are the 7 Steps:
Step 1. Keep It Real
Big goals with little to no planning and inconsistent action = no results. This is discouraging.
You want to have goals that are big enough to inspire and excite you, and also scare you a bit too.
If you’re having trouble meeting your goals and keeping a positive mindset I invite you to follow this process.
1. Stop. Take a step back. Breathe deep and take a look around. What do you hear, see and feel, smell and taste in this moment.
2. Pause here for as long as you want.
3. Then grab your journal, paper or document and write about where you’re at in relation to where you want to be in terms of your goals.
4. When you feel you’ve got it all down on paper, reflect and ask yourself:
- Do you still want to achieve that goal?
- Do you know what you want instead? Then move to number 5.
If you still want your goals, move to number 5.
5. What’s the next step you can take that will move you forwards?
6. Is there a step you need to take before that step?
Note: Repeating this question until you can’t chunk it down anymore will set you up for success.
7. Celebrate each success along the way to your big dream! Record your successes.
8. Look back on these successes when you feel discouraged, or lacking motivation. It will spur you on to keep going!
Step 2. Challenge Yourself
I am uncomfortable with feeling stagnant. I start to slip into negative thought patterns, I become down, disillusioned and depressed.
Is this you too?
If it’s too easy to meet your goals, perhaps they’re not big enough.
Challenge yourself, but strategically. In other words, set yourself up for success. Working through all of these steps will support your success.
Step 3. Watch The Company You Keep
When you hang around with negative people, it tends to rub off.
Did you know we become the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with?
Who are you spending your time with? Do they lift and encourage you and others up, are they cheerleaders and want you and others to succeed?
Or do they pull you and others down, never anything nice to say, always complaining?
Lock down could make being selective about the company you keep more difficult but as we begin our day to day life again it’s a good time to seek look at who we’re surrounding ourselves with.
Want to be upbeat? Find the upbeat people. Want to be successful? Be around successful people.
Step 4. Know Your Why
Write a list of all the reasons why you want your goals.
Look at this list whenever you feel overwhelmed or negative. Remind yourself of why you’re doing this. This list might include financial goals, too, and why you want to earn that money.
One of my biggest mindset turnarounds relates to money and the story I’ve been telling myself about it.
For the past 20 years I’ve undervalued myself, rarely charging anything for my services and when I did charge, I’d feel such guilt and shame about it that I’d try throwing the money back at people.
I’ve overcome so many limiting beliefs it’s worthy of a separate post.
For now, step 4 is to write down all your reasons why and refer to it when you feel yourself slip onto a slippery slope of negativity or doubt.
Step 5. Stop Passing The Buck
Don’t blame others for your failures.
And don’t beat yourself up over them, either.
A healthier way to handle failure is to take responsibility for it and learn from it.
Think of it as a motivational moment – you can improve and avoid making the same mistakes again.
Affirmation: “Failure and struggle are stepping stones to my next success”.
JK Rowling didn’t seal the deal with the first publisher she sent the final Harry Potter to. It was the 13th.
If you really want something, go for it again.
Step 6. Be Bold
I’m all for brainstorming hurdles along the path of reaching a goal but you can be too cautious.
Being too cautious will stop you from taking any action at all.
How many back-up plans do you like to have before you’ll take a risk or embark on a new venture?
What do you dream of doing but keep thinking yourself out of?
Imagine doing that really big scary thing, how do you feel looking back on the experience?
What would it mean to you if you took a big, bold move towards it?
Being sensible about risks is healthy, but being overly cautious can paralyze you.
Step 7. Confidence In Your Abilities
Sometimes it’s hard to believe in yourself, your unique experiences and the skills you have. Many of you will be thinking you have ZERO talent, ZERO skill, ZERO experience, ZERO to bring to the table.
But if you want to develop a success mindset I invite you to sit and really reflect on the roles and responsibilities you currently have. If you run a home you manage money and tasks. Are you the go-to person when your friends are in a crisis?
You do have an abundance of skill and an abundance of potential. You just can’t see it right now. Here’s a few questions to help you with that.
- What are some of the biggest challenges in my life? How did I overcome them?
- Remember your first achievement? What was it? No matter how big or small you think it is.
- All achievement is achievement. How did you feel when you achieved it? Was it easy? Did you achieve it first time you went for it?
- What do you enjoy doing? (We usually enjoy what we are good at!)
Have confidence in your skills. There may be others who have similar skills, but no one is uniquely you!
Here’s my favourite quote, you’ll see it at the bottom of my emails.
“Be yourself, every one else is taken” Oscar Wilde
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